6 TOP CHALLENGES TO FRUITFUL SEX IN MARRIAGE
In most marriages, as the couples live together for long, the level of their sexual attraction dwindles. And because strong sexual attraction is a key ingredient in ensuring a successful marriage, it becomes very necessary to study the factors to boost the sexual attraction in marriage.
Experience have shown that as couples grow in their married life, they rarely seek adventurous ways to satisfy their sexual desires, therefore sex gradually becomes a monotonous ceremony, new ideas, surprises or styles are not sort.
When sexual adventure is left out of marriage, the couples may eventually loose interest or become less stimulated to engage in sex. To overcome this, it’s advisable that each partner should go the extra mile in acquiring new skills to improve their sexual lives.
Incessant quarrels among couples also delve a heavy blow on their sexual relationship especially for those who experience a relationship blackout when angry. For such couples, their sex life experiences a comatose once there is a quarrel. As a way forward, couples should strive to take advantage of the passionate experience of sex to resolve their discord.
For some people, sex is to be pleasurable only when it must last for a given strength of time, then every effort has to be channelled in planning for a long stretch “ceremony of sex”. The reality however is that because of the domestic pressures of marriage, especially for very busy couples, having all the time to plan may first be almost impossible. And by implication, for such there may not be a fulfilled sexual life.
To overcome this challenge, couples should make sex a priority, plan together towards making it more frequent and building on this as a means of attaining fulfilment.
Another factor that puts pressure on family sex life is the fear of performance. In this case, one of the partners (especially the male) suffers a battered ego for not measuring up to the expectation of the other partner during every sexual act. It is important to mention here that no normal human can always record a hundred percent (100%) performance all through for every sexual act, especially where it is almost daily (except when induced by drug). This should in no way serve as an excuse for couples who have less frequent sexual experience.
Sometimes the pressure and resultant low performance could be due to a very nasty encounter (e.g. rape, sexual assault) earlier in life. In this case, a visit to the psychologist is very necessary while the person involved should be constantly reassured of a better future by his/her partner as a winning streak.
If the fear of past poor performance is the hindering factor, then the couple should reduce the pressure by taking turns in initiating sex as well as making co-participatory.
In each case, it is important to determine the root cause in order to apply the appropriate measure(s). For instance, if low performance is due to regular sexual intercourse, then couples should endeavour to reduce the rate of their sexual intercourse. No matter the level of sexual challenges in your marriage, communicating or discussing issue with your spouse renders it half solved. Confronting such issues as a team without necessarily apportioning blame also guarantees success in no distant time.